When you meet women, do not think right away of sleeping with her. If you really want to date a fine woman, then better discipline yourself. You are actually meeting her for the first time. So make that first time really worthwhile.
Introduce yourself properly. Ask for her name courteously and try to open a small conversation with her. If the conversation went well, then you can now ask her to go out with you sometime, maybe on a weekend. But make sure that when you ask her out, it must be a time that works best for her. If not, you can always expect a “no” for an answer.
So when you are making an invitation or offer to go out with her, see to it that you already have a plan. That means you already have an idea of how it will go and where would you take her. To help you, I have made a list of the things that you have to consider in picking up a good first date for you:
- Never invite someone you have just met into your home.
This is only good if you have already met her twice, thrice or many times. But if it is still your first time to date, then inviting her to your home is a bit creepy. Some women are open-minded and would never mind if you do. But most of them are very conscious and meticulous about it. When they receive such kind of invitation, they would surely think twice.
Needless to say, a home is a private place. If you invite her to your private place, she would think something odd and fishy about your invitation. Worse, she would think that you are only after sleeping with her.
- Do not consider a super private area as the venue for your first date.
Just like in some horror movies, when you invite her into some old cabin in the woods or abandoned warehouses, she would immediately think that you are up to something. This might just scare her and would give you a negative impression that you are thinking weird, which is very creepy. If this would be the case, there will be a great possibility that she will say “no” to your invitation. Hence, you lose your chance. But if she’s a bit creepy too, so to speak, then you would both probably get well together.
- Invite her to a public place with lots of people.
So instead of some private areas, invite her to a more public place wherein you can see a lot of sceneries as well as people. This would give her complacency that nothing untoward will happen during your date. If your first date would turn out good, then definitely there would be a second, third and more.
- Do not make your first date too intimate.
Making your first date too intimate might just intimidate her. Make your first date simple and cool. Girls may love it when it is quite romantic but making it intimate might just scare her away.
Women have already been hearing a lot of compliments in their entire life. That is why if you make one, make sure it is something different and definitely true. Do not just make this as an alibi to strike a conversation with her. When you compliment her, mean it. This is because women are sensitive enough to feel that you might just be kidding her.
There are somewhat rules, so to speak, when it comes to complimenting a woman whenever you get to meet her. I have some up a list of dos and don’ts that I would like to share with you in order for you to be aware that what you are telling her is already going overboard.
- Do not overdo in appreciating her.
If you do not want to sound creepy, then do not exaggerate in giving her compliments. Telling her that her blue eyes really turn you on could sound too pushy and weird. She may either raise an eyebrow on you or just disregard you. Worse, she would never talk to you ever again. So if you are trying to make a move, do it in a more nominal manner.
- Congratulate her when she has done something well.
If she has done something really exceptional, grab this chance to meet her and congratulate her. This could be the perfect timing for you to strike a conversation with her or even ask her out by the end of your talk. This is your only chance to stay closer to her so do not waste it.
Congratulating her is one way of showing your interest in her. She really appreciates it when you appreciate her. But remember the first rule, do not overdo it. Overdoing it would only annoy and intimidate her.
- Hope you had a research first before blurting out a compliment for her.
Doing a research really helps. It only shows that you are not just complimenting her randomly unlike what other players out there do. If you happen to have the class with her, you can say: “I really liked the joke you made earlier” or that “What you did yesterday in class was awesome”. I am quite sure she would smile to that.
- You can tell her what you think about her.
If you are really not familiar with her, you can at least tell something about what you think about her or similar to that tenor. For instance you would say: “I saw you yesterday playing volleyball. I bet you are the top player.”
Remember to be suave in telling this to her because doing otherwise would create a different result.
- Complimenting her on the way she looks works all the time.
One of the most common compliments that you can give to a girl is about her looks. Although it has been commonly used, it still works all the time. This tactic will never fail you. However, make sure that when you say these magic words, do it in a manner that is not so creepy.
- Be more specific and not try some overused compliments
When you compliment her and try a little something new. Never try to compliment her by chance because surely she would just ignore you.
Actually, there is nothing wrong if you show her that you are really interested in her and that you would do anything just to go out with you. Basically, it shows sincerity in which women would want from a man. But if you act like you are too obsessed in going out with her and that your world would fall apart if she does not go out with you, then that would be a different story. You are too creepy for her to go out with.
If you want women not to avoid you, then take everything slowly but surely. Be more patient in wooing her and determine as well whether you have gone overboard. Do not tell her right away that you like her because this might give the girl a wrong impression. Not unless you feel something good and positive about your conversation, then from there you can tell her what you feel. This is because, most likely, she also likes you.
When you meet a girl for the first time, I want you to remember the following:
- Do not ask for her number in the middle of the conversation.
It is quite unusual for you to ask for her number in the middle of the conversation. It would seem to look as if you are too eager to get it, which would only give her goosebumps. She might be thinking that you are just some one creepy stalker that she should avoid. So the best time for you to ask for her number is at the end of your talk. Ask it in a more creative manner.
- In asking her out, do not invite her to do something intense on your first date.
If you invite her, do not schedule an activity like hiking or something. You might be sending her a wrong message about your personality. To be sure and safe, a simple dinner would do on your first date.
I know you want your first date to be something special. But let me remind you that your first date is the determining point whether you are still going to have a second and third date. Thus, keep it simple by knowing her better and letting her know you better as well.
- Do not look too eager in asking her out.
Sometimes, you become pushy if you really want a girl. Hence, there will be a tendency that you will be just pushing her away from you instead of making her agree to go out with you. So be very careful with your move. Like they always say, take it slowly but surely.
- Do not make her feel guilty.
When she does not want to go out with you, do not show her that you are too devastated. Anyway, if she does not want to go out with you, there are still a lot of girls out there who could be much better than her.
- Do not let her feel as if she is the only one for you.
Your world does not revolve around her only. If she rejects your offer, accept it like nothing happened. Be cool. She might just change her mind in a few minutes.
If you are thinking that by simply going to the gym you would be able to meet fine women there, you have most probably got it all wrong. Going to the gym to meet girls is not what I meant. All I am trying to say is that by being able to make yourself physically fit through constant workout, you would certainly be able to make yourself highly visible in the eyes of women. You will be their favourite from now on.
While it is true that good looks is not just the only way to get through the heart of a girl, still, it becomes the initial aspect that girls would find in a man. If you got the looks and great body, then you have certainly passed the first test of women’s “Mr Right”.
Love yourself first if you want others to like and love you too. Hence, do anything that is necessary for you to boost your self-esteem. Make yourself look good if you want to feel good about yourself. The first step that you should take is to go to the gym and get physically fit. If you are successful with this, you do not have to make efforts in order to be noticed. Even without doing anything, you would certainly be surprised that women will be the one chasing and looking you.
Your good physique is a great advantage when it comes to meeting women. Let me share with you what you can possibly expect from after you get that wonderful body:
- You will become a head turner.
Who would ever refuse such good looks and great body? For me, that’s the perfect way to lure women into wanting you. Women are attracted to men who have the perfect body because such feature indicates manliness. Although I am not really telling that this is absolute. What I am trying to tell you is that there is a great possibility of you being noticed by many people. Impressing women with your physique without having to flex your muscles is indeed possible.
- Women will be the one to approach you.
There are some women who are aggressive. If you happen to pass by one, she would certainly make her move in knowing your name and introducing herself to you. Seems effortless, right. Well, that’s the way it is. You get this privilege once you have this great possession.
- If you ask someone out, you can certainly get a ‘’yes”.
You would certainly become irresistible to women. You can talk to them without being nervous because you would be confident enough that she will never say “no” to you. Of course, you have to remember the basics. Approach her nicely and never appear too proud or confident. Remember, it is not only the looks that women look into men when it comes to dating.
- You will stand out from the rest.
You do not have to worry about competition because with your great body, you would definitely stand out. You certainly have the edge over other men out there.
Bringing your dog with and try to walk around the corner is quite a passé tactic but never fails to work all the time. If you have a dog, use it to your advantage. You can go for a walk or you can join some dog shows and meet-ups. I am sure you would be able to find and meet good women.
Dogs are said to be man’s best friend. They will be loyal to you and even risk their lives just to protect and save you from possible harm. At this point in time, they might also be able to help you when it comes to meeting women. They could add to your charm and make you look good in the eyes of most women.
People with dogs are branded to be loving, passionate and really good persons. That is why being seen with dogs gives you a plus factor. You would give everyone an impression that you are a one good man. If you want to impress one girl who also loves dogs, you better take this as a good tip. You can walk with her together with your dogs. This could be a good opportunity for you to get closer to her and know more about her. Here are some ways that you can use your dog to your advantage in meeting women:
- Walk at the park.
You can do this as a hobby. Walk your dog daily at these parks. Who knows, you might be able to meet the perfect woman of your dreams. You can talk with women you can see at that place. Approach her without being too pushy. I am quite sure that she would love to talk about your dog and know you better as well.
- Sign up for dog shows.
If you have come across with organised dog activities such as dog shows, you can try signing up your buddy. This does not make you less of a man. In fact, this could be a way for you to impress a woman.
In the same way, you would also be able to meet women in these activities who are also dog lovers. Surely, you would be able to talk about a lot of things and get along well with each other. Take advantage of this opportunity to meet fine women.
- Join meet ups for dog lovers.
Aside from dog shows, there are also some activities organised wherein the focus is not just on the dogs but also with their best friends. Dog owners would be able to meet and greet other dog owners. In your case, you can talk to women whom you can share the same interest with. This is one way of socialising with other people most especially getting closer with fine and beautiful women.
- Shop for your dog.
You can go to shops to buy some fancy accessories for your dogs. In going to these stores, you would certainly be able to meet a girl who is also buying something for her pup. Perhaps you can strike a small conversation with her. This could be a perfect timing because you would definitely have a lot to talk about, most especially about your dog.