Some men get scared right away and back out with the plan of approaching the lady even before they tried. The problem I see about this is that either you are not confident enough about yourself or you are just conscious of what she might think about you.
When talking to girls, you have to remember that they are not all the same. The way they think varies depending on the environment that they are into. For instance, if they are among the groups you find at bars, then most likely she is definitely open to knowing more people and would never hesitate talking to a guy who wish to get her number.
I am not actually stereotyping groups of people according to their disposition. What I am trying to imply is that there is only a possibility and that you can use this as an advantage when it comes to talking with girls.
But most often, girls are misconstrued by men. If they see a woman not quite entertaining the talk, they would immediately conclude that she is not interested. For some reasons, women do this as their defence mechanism. In this instance, she does not give the guy an immediate impression that she really likes him. She would most probably give him a hard time to test his sincerity.
If you would be able to know and understand the language of women, you would certainly be surprised of what they are actually thinking. So to help boost your confidence in pursuing her, here are some facts that you might as well consider:
- Most of the girls that you converse with actually like you.
It may not be too obvious but girls do really like you. They would never waste their time staying if they do not actually felt something with a spark. If a girl is not really interested with you, she will right away leave and stay away from you. But if she does, she will just be listening to you, even if you see her not smiling.
- If you do not pursue her, you would probably lose her.
You have to remember that girls want to be chased. While the rule for you guys is to keep girls wanting you more, girls, in the same way, want you to want them more and chase her.
Rarely can you find women who would be the first one to walk to a guy and talk to him. I tell you, most of the girls would want to establish their image as someone you can hardly get in just a single talk. That is why, never stop pursuing her. Giving up right away would only make you regret in the long run. You could have done better and be more patient to really pursue her.
- You have got nothing to lose if you keep things no course.
It really pays if you keep on the course and never give up right away. Just because she never smiled back at you does not mean that you have no chance of inviting her out. Girls do change their minds more often than you do. This time, she might be able to realise that she already wants to go out with you.