When you are into someone, you will definitely put your best foot forward. You will show her how nice you are and how good looking you are in wearing those body-fit tees. Anything that you can think of just to impress her would be a good idea. In doing this, you will definitely get her attention.
However, the problem about this is that most men are also doing the same things. So how exactly are going to do it yourself without being branded as just a wanna-be of somebody else? Well, the answer to this is simple and already being regarded as a cliché. You just have to be yourself and be the best that you can be. Quite broad, eh? So how do we simplify things? Let me give you a few tips that you might consider in really making her fall for you:
- Speak in smart language.
You can always show off and impress a girl when you do smart talking. Speaking in smart language does not mean that you will be talking about random political insights or some academic matters. You just have to be logical or somewhat philosophical whenever you get to discuss some simple or serious matters.
Women love men who are smart and intelligible. It only manifests a man’s capability to lead and decide wisely. When you would be able to pose this kind of image to a girl, then you are definitely on the right track. Your smart talking skills will never fail you in attracting women.
- Regularly change your style and fashion.
You may find it cool when you are in your long hair this week. However, as the time goes by, when you feel there is already a need to change your hairstyle, please do not hesitate to do so. If you feel that you would look handsome with the style that you picked, then go one. Be the best that you can be. There is no one holding you back when it comes to this matter.
You just have to remember that when you change your style, it would be for the best. Make sure that it really suits your personality because having it otherwise would only make you ridiculous.
- Do not try to imitate famous celebrities in their styles.
Most men who are insecure about themselves often imitate a famous celebrity so that they would look handsome like that of the latter. If you are sure about yourself that you would be able to attract women even without imitating a handsome actor in the Hollywood, then you better do your own style. Remember that if the woman likes you for who you are and not because you look like Brad Pitt, then you are just one lucky man.
- Be fun to be with if you are with a cowgirl.
Girls want men who could jive along with them even at their wackiest moment. One thing that you should remember is that you should be able to know your audience. If she wants it that way, then do it her way.
- Be serious if you are within a professional group.
If you are within a group of career people, then you should most probably act and dress like one.
This question could be the most insulting statement that you would ever say to a woman. If ever you are thinking of saying this to a girl, try to ask yourself first. Why are you saying this? What do you wish to imply? If you are not a girl, you would never feel how hurting it is to hear such things from a man.
True, women are most sensitive during their menstrual cycle. Well, actually, women are always sensitive. It is just that they are more susceptible to mood swings if they are within the aforementioned period. So if ever you experience arguing with a girl, never say these words to her. She might just flare up even more. Worst, you would lose her for being so insensitive about this matter. While this may sound too normal to guys, girls do make a big deal out of it. Let me tell you why.
- You are implying that she is just being too melodramatic.
In telling these words, you are just simply telling her that is only over reacting on certain things and that her actions do not really commensurate the issue at hand. It is as if you are choking her and preventing her from totally expressing her thoughts and feelings. I know, I know. It may be an exaggeration but it holds true, from a woman’s perspective. Bringing up this issue with her will not help you settle the matter with her. You are only making it worse. Trust me.
- You let her feel that her reactions really annoy you.
Perhaps, there are some points in time that you really get annoyed with a girl’s reactions to certain matters. Even if that would be the case, as much as possible, do not let her feel that she is already annoying you. Let her notice it in a different way without hurting her feelings. I know she would really appreciate it in the end if you would do it as a matter of favour.
- You are simply mocking her.
Telling her that she must have been getting her period just because she reacted that way is a great insult to her. It is as if you are really mocking her “womanhood” just like that. I am quite sure that she will never accept it and that she will flare up to let you feel that she is not amenable to what you have just said. Hence, it will only keep the argument longer and more intense. Just be sensitive. What would you feel if she uses your weakness whenever you have arguments? Would it be quite unfair?
- You really do not care how she feels.
If you try to insert this statement on your argument with her, she would take it as if you really do not care about how she feels. She would even feel more pitiful and sorry for herself and will never forgive you for telling it to her. Surely, she will never forget it even if time has already passed.
Some men get scared right away and back out with the plan of approaching the lady even before they tried. The problem I see about this is that either you are not confident enough about yourself or you are just conscious of what she might think about you.
When talking to girls, you have to remember that they are not all the same. The way they think varies depending on the environment that they are into. For instance, if they are among the groups you find at bars, then most likely she is definitely open to knowing more people and would never hesitate talking to a guy who wish to get her number.
I am not actually stereotyping groups of people according to their disposition. What I am trying to imply is that there is only a possibility and that you can use this as an advantage when it comes to talking with girls.
But most often, girls are misconstrued by men. If they see a woman not quite entertaining the talk, they would immediately conclude that she is not interested. For some reasons, women do this as their defence mechanism. In this instance, she does not give the guy an immediate impression that she really likes him. She would most probably give him a hard time to test his sincerity.
If you would be able to know and understand the language of women, you would certainly be surprised of what they are actually thinking. So to help boost your confidence in pursuing her, here are some facts that you might as well consider:
- Most of the girls that you converse with actually like you.
It may not be too obvious but girls do really like you. They would never waste their time staying if they do not actually felt something with a spark. If a girl is not really interested with you, she will right away leave and stay away from you. But if she does, she will just be listening to you, even if you see her not smiling.
- If you do not pursue her, you would probably lose her.
You have to remember that girls want to be chased. While the rule for you guys is to keep girls wanting you more, girls, in the same way, want you to want them more and chase her.
Rarely can you find women who would be the first one to walk to a guy and talk to him. I tell you, most of the girls would want to establish their image as someone you can hardly get in just a single talk. That is why, never stop pursuing her. Giving up right away would only make you regret in the long run. You could have done better and be more patient to really pursue her.
- You have got nothing to lose if you keep things no course.
It really pays if you keep on the course and never give up right away. Just because she never smiled back at you does not mean that you have no chance of inviting her out. Girls do change their minds more often than you do. This time, she might be able to realise that she already wants to go out with you.
There is always the right time and right place to flirt. If you are doing it otherwise, then you can certainly expect that your brilliant moves would fail you. So if you have been eyeing someone whom you wish to talk with, then find the right time and place for you to do your signature “move”.
Flirting could not be done anywhere at any instance. You have to be sensitive about this. If it is not the right place, a funeral for instance, then do not do anything that would only embarrass you later on. Make sure that when you do the move, you will definitely be receiving a positive response. I suggest that when you flirt, take into consideration the following situations:
- Flirting at the workplace.
This could be a good place for you to meet a lot of people but it does not mean that you can do whatever you want. Since you are in a workplace, consider your rapport and proper behaviour as a professional. So remember that when you decide to flirt in a certain place, you also have to adjust your interaction with the girl. Talk with her in a sense that she does not get annoyed or intimidated by your presence.
- Flirting inside the library.
If you are inside the library, you are expected to be quiet because you might just be disturbing other people who are reading seriously. But if you have found someone that you are really interested with, the silence of the library would never be a hindrance. As long as you know how to deal with it appropriately, then certainly you would be able to get to her even ta the library.
You can try sitting next to her, ask her some simple questions or any other moves you can think. However, be mindful of your acts because while you consider this as your chance, she would treat this as the last time she will ever talk to you.
- Flirting at the bar.
Bars and other similar places are very loud places. These places may not be conducive for you to talk well. However, you can also do other alternative like offering her a drink or inviting her to a dance. You might as well ask for her number. In this way, you would be able to talk with her alone.
You can meet a lot of people in these places. So grab the very opportunity that you have. But then again, you always have to be mindful of your acts whether it is appropriate for the place you are in.
- Flirting while walking her home.
When you happen to see her walk home, consider this as an opportunity for you to talk with her. You can talk about a lot of things while walking her home. You can get to know her better and she could likewise get to know more about you. Show to her that you are a real gentleman. I am quite sure that she will never refuse you if ever you will ask her out.
They always say that giving everything you have is no longer healthy. This holds true most especially if the recipient is somewhat a usurper. You will definitely lose everything that you have without even getting something that you deserve.
When it comes to women, it is also not good for you to give everything that you have. That means you show too much care or passion even if it is still your first time to date. Well, it is really okay to show you care but never show that you are too obsessed caring for her that you would give everything just to make her happy. That sounds unfair on your part most especially that you are not 100% sure that she will, in turn, like you the same way that you do. So remember the rule, do not make things like your world only revolves around her. Reserve something for yourself and make her want you more.
As the saying goes, less is more. So when you are less into her, the more likely she will be into you. I can somehow relate it as a reverse psychology to women. First you show them you are interested in them and then leave the rest up to them. Make them feel that you are a good catch and that they cannot simply resist you. You have to play the game wisely because you might just end up losing her totally. Just a bit of this and that would do as long as you are effective in letting her want you more.
This could be quite a difficult tip that I could share with you because the whole move is really up to you. If you play nicely, then you got it. If you do not, then you would definitely fail. So here are some tips that I would like to share to you to help you make this more exciting.
- Do not be around for her all the time.
One of the common mistakes of suitors is that they let the woman feel that they are around her all the time. Wherever she goes, they will definitely be there to do anything that she needs. While this could help in letting her feel how serious you are with her, there is still a downfall to this because the girl might just get annoyed with you in the long run and dump you just like that.
So the key here is that do not be present at all times in her sight. Let her look for you or wonder why you haven’t called. When handled appropriately, she will certainly say “yes” to you in no time.
- Let her do most of the talking.
In a conversation, it is okay to do the starters. But make sure that she will be the one to do most of the talking. Let her share anything she wants and let her be the one to ask questions about you.
- Just play it cool.
When you get rejected, play it like you are never affected. She might just change her mind after that. Remember that the more you show you are into her, the lesser she feels that she’s into you.